So for those of you who don’t know, I have Cerebral Palsy and use crutches to get around. My crutches are fab – I actually wrote a review on them here – they really do make a statement and while I love this – there definitely is a drawback.

Me & my crutches way back in 2012
As a long time crutch user, I’ve found that people see crutches and assume that they can ask what’s wrong. Whether it’s ‘oh what have you done to yourself’ or ‘have you had a fall?’, it seems that people think crutches are an invitation to be nosey about my disability. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not embarrassed by my disability, it’s a huge part of who I am, and I’m more than happy to talk about it – providing I’m asked in the right way. Asking what I’ve done to myself as I’m trying to pay for my food shop or ordering food off a menu isn’t appropriate and quite frankly, I think it’s quite rude.

I used to just tell the people that asked that I fell, but recently, I’ve started to just say ‘I have a disability’. This is often met with sympathetic and pitying stares – something that frustrates me even more. I don’t want your pity, random stranger, I just want you to mind your own business.

If you’re my friend, or if you’re genuinely interested in learning more about my disability, I’m happy to answer any questions – but strangers using it as small talk, I’m just not okay with that.


to top